Closing the door on love? Impossible.

When do you close the door 
on people you have loved.... for good?

A recent TED talk explained how
in life, the feeling of "love" or "attachment" for someone else 

never really "erases" from your brain....
...you can never really FORGET someone.

(Ugh???) 

Correct- it's true. 

Especially if that love was a love that had
lots of passion, a deep/strong connection and 

was experienced over a long period of time. 

(Wait hold the phone, you can forget or let go of someone. Pffft, please! People do it all the time.

It's not impossible - you make love sound like an addiction Lauren....errr, is it?)

IN FACT
according to this TED talk ~ love IS like a drug!

One of the most ADDICTIVE kind.

(whoa)

Your brain reacts to love or the part of the brain that is stimulated from

drugs such as cocaine is also activated by love! 

(or getting hurt by love for that matter but that's for another day)

That means, even after ten, twenty years ~ no matter what you do, you will

always love that person
whom you once were soooo "addicted" to.

(Oh for gawd - I paid money to help me GET OVER people. Don't

tell me getting over people is impossible 

or a complete waste of time or a crap shoot 

because I don't want to hear it Lauren!!!!)

Yup.

Total crap shoot.

Doesn't matter how many people

you put between you and that special someone....

(Really? Dang it, I thought at least in the 90 would be good enough)

Doesn't matter how much distance you put

between you and that person......

(Oh stop, it definitely helps! FOR SURE! I know this - fact!)

It doesn't even matter if you get rid of everything and 

ANYTHING that reminds you of that person...they will still be there.

(Oh gawd - just stop. I don't want to hear anymore of this B.S.)

It's true!!!

You will hear a song, you will go to a place, you will smell a scent,

taste a food or heck, BUMP into them at some point.

(So what can you do?)

EMBRACE IT & ACCEPT! 

It can be your worst nightmare or the greatest gift.

It's your choice.

(Cheesey Lauren, bloody cheesey!)

But seriously just stop and think for a second.

Your brain is amazing because without you even knowing it,

it reserved a chair, a room, a folder in your memory drawer for that person.

You are right, your brain didn't EVEN ask you for permission.

(Jerk!)

It didn't have to. 

It knows better than YOU!!!

Even if you don't agree, that person is forever in that room along with 

all the memories and sounds, smells, tastes, etc.

Just waiting.

So you have two choices - you can either accept that 

"they" are there forever and if you have to, open the door every once in a while to say "Hey!"

OR

Try and push them out of sight out of ...mind?

Not sure which one I like better.

Hmmmm.

To conclude? What did we learn?

What do you (lauren) like best 

about the TED talk? 
That forgetting people whom I loved is impossible?

DUH

*****

That my brain wants me to remember
and believes that I am capable of remembering all the good

in those that I loved - 

no matter how much   the logic in my brain
disagree or the pain might prickle... 

******

Feeling the "hurt" is sometimes a good thing,
I think.